Sunday, March 18, 2012

Holistic Psychology Database

Holistic Psychology Database
* This page is growing, I will add-on any newly discovered therapy system in my life here. The learning is in process, and hope this can benefit the readers. If you want to know more, then kindly ask me. If the terms are here, then it indicate that I know where to search for further information even though I am not familiar with it, at the moment. If you know any additional therapies/skill/stuff/etc, kindly introduce to me. I wish to know more ^_^

Let learn together...

3 MAJOR FIELDS
1. Conventional Psychology
2. Psycho-spiritual psychology & Miscellaneous
3. Religion


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1. Conventional Psychology


2. Psycho-spiritual psychology and Miscellaneous
(The following grouping style is my personal grouping method, group according to similarities)
Color code:
BLUE: quite familiar / have some sort of practice
PURPLE: probably familiar, but hardly practice nowadays
ORANGE: have some introductory knowledge
RED: hear the name, but hardly discover the essence

Group A: Typically you can do by yourself
Meditation/Mindfulness
Walking meditation
Daily routine meditation Visualization
Spiritual Dancing
Chang Sheng Xue
Cakra
Yoga
Qi-Gong
Art of Living
Breathwork
EFT - Emotional Freedom Techniques
Hooponopono
Sufism
Traditional Chinese Medication

Group B:You typically need to ask someone to help, and more tool oriented (although you can do it by yourself too)
Numerology
Astrology
Palmistry
Face reading
Isis (Mother Goddess of Ancient Egypt)
Tarot Card
Angel Card therapy
Dream analysis - Tibetan Medical Methodology
Prophecy
Native America Healing - e.g. Power animals
Aroma Therapy
Phytobiophysics - Flower and plant energy therapy
Craniosacral therapy
Family Constellation

Group C: Invoke the help from other Realms, although some other practices may invoke other realms' helps too
Medium (spirit, guidance angel, deceased relatives, etc)

Group D: More communication oriented
身心灵深层唯识沟通
Past-Life therapy
Hypnosis
NLP
TLT (Time line therapy)

Group E: Artistic
Metaphor
Creative Arts
Music therapy

Group F:  Miscellaneous, Technology and Medication
Out of Body Experience (OBE)
Dying & Near death experience
Aura photography
Psychedelics, Ethnophamacology

3. Religions and Philosophy
Buddhism
Christianity
Islam
Hindusim
Ancient Chinese Philosophy
Ancient Rome Philosophy

Friday, March 16, 2012

茫然在——喧哗中的平静

我发觉到我不习惯‘喧哗中的平静’。什么是‘喧哗中的平静’?例如,在一组人高谈阔论时,突然间大家都‘冷场’了,那时的我既很可能会无厘头的依照以往的习气来说几个冷笑话,但往往后果反而更‘冷场’或最终不了了之。从喧哗中,然后突然间变到平静,我的习气告诉我要赶紧让热闹再度燃烧。这是对的吗?除此之外,有时在发表意见时,突然间说完了台词,整个人会不觉察的紧张起来(虽然也许旁人不会觉察到),而尽量的想说些话来掩盖那安静的时刻。回想起,其实在很多时候多说多错,让所表达的思维谬以千里。

好像曾经有位大师说过如果人去处了习气,生命完全活在当下的选择中,此人即已接近证悟了。如果在‘冷场’中,我该静静的分析该‘冷场’是否应该或是恰当的,不是吗?很多时候,在‘静’的时候,人类才能好好的思考,不是吗?还记得以前在佛学院读书的时候,有位法师跟我及同学们说如果将来向他人说道理的时候,我们应该在适当的时候停顿,以便听众能好好的消化吸收。除此之外,凭着自己的人生经验,也会发觉到好的讲师等都会在该停顿的时候停顿,放松的时候放松。我,是时候学习如何创造极佳的‘平静’了!放下过去的茫然习惯(那就是每当发觉到冷场时,就会乱乱制造一些话题来补上去),放下过去的慌张(那就是每当发现冷场时,内心深处就会感到慌乱),放下过去的自卑(那就是每当发现冷场时,就仿佛会认为自己所说的或所表达的并不完美,导致到大家没兴趣听等);提起内观,正定,信心,同理来表达每一个论点!要明白其实安静也是一种美,更是一种需要!人们需要安静来消化所吸取的知识,讲课人更需要安静来从新扎根,呼吸,眼神的交流,感受现场等。

 要做好一个教育家,就要有很好的沟通管道,明白他人,明白自己。至于那些过去的习气,如果还未浮现的,就激发它,好让它们赶紧浮现,接着再转化它们。那些已浮现的习气,就当下转化之。如今,发觉到了‘我并无法好好处理喧哗中的平静’的问题,着就要当下改之。

现在,改。

观想,我融入那平静之中,我遨游在整个安静的课时里,融入了听众们的内心,也融入了自己的内心,观——

观——

停——

静——



加油!


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2012年3月16日



Monday, March 12, 2012

My Daily Spiritual Practice

The following texts are written as a memory as well as my personal spiritual practice checklist... Over the years, I have tried to seek the true nature of the myself, tried to understand the mechanism of the mind, tried to explore the limitation of human mind, tried to explore this world from other dimensions, tried to live a truly happy life, and tried to understand the so-called 'Enlightenment'. The journey start in the past, yet it never cease. Right now right here, I am still exploring in those areas, instead, my interests and scope of studies had been expanded in accordance to the accumulation of knowledge and maturity of the spirituality.

If I am given one word to describe myself, I would like to choose the word 'Compassion' over other choices of word. I may be very well educated, knowledgeable, independent, wise, optimistic, realistic, spiritual, smiling, happy, cheerful, etc, yet I think kindness is the most important and wonderful ability that I have in my life.

I try to list out any memories, habits, deeds, thoughts, wishes, etc in my recent daily life... This may serve as my personal spiritual practice checklist, and I can reflect on it in order to be more mature, accepting, kind, etc.

Without any delay, I write anythings that come into my mind... Let the mind flows like streams of water, fluently, peacefully, and beautifully... Here it goes...

  1. In the morning, I slowly open my eyes, and wish myself, family, friends, as well as the world to become more compassionate, and grow better in the direction of the Light.
  2. I observe things and phenomena with sharpen mind, keep study and explore their causes (origins) as well as possible effects.
  3. When I make movements, for example, swing the hand from left to right or simply flip my palm, I probably will visualize that I am spreading the seed of love and compassion to the surroundings.
  4. I am trying to be mindful in my daily life. Sometimes, I may walk with 'commands', e.g. silently say 'left' and 'right' while I exchanging my pace from left leg to right leg. Besides, I may occasionally sense the sensation between my hand and the touched surface. Besides, I may try to cultivate mindful breathing from time to time.
  5. If I meet anyone who burst into anger, or being drown by the darkness of sorrow, even if the person is a stranger to me, I will silently, mindfully, compassionately bless him/her, and send my blessing, lights, wishes to him/her. I hope that even though I can't directly help him/her, I may help him/her indirectly. Even though this seem quite silly from scientific perspective, at least I know that I have done my best (Hmmm, probably that my best is still not enough?).
  6. I am trying to be friendly with any insects around me. I seldom kill any insects, except sometimes ants (sorry for killing, kill for the purpose of cleaning, but ants come because of my less hygiene behaviors... -_-"). Anyway, I seldom kill any mosquitoes, and probably because of this, I hardly sting by any mosquitoes, even while I am hiking in forest... (Haha, syok sendiri... zzz)
  7. For many years (at least 8 years), my birthday wishes remain the same, and it is going to be the same... That is (1) Purify the heart of human being, (2) Harmonize the society,  and (3) No disasters in the world. These wishes are actually origin from Master Cheng Yen, and her compassion deeply touched me. Thus, I wish as what she wishes.
  8. If I find any anger, hatred, ignorance, proud, etc deep within myself, I will try to look deep into it. Try to understand the origin of these emotions (of course I never reach the so-called true origin), and then try to transform it into wisdom. Then, let go.
  9. Try to be vegetarian, but recently I feel that I am quite greedy and long for many types of food. Too bad, because of my greed, many lives are killed. Need to cultivate more on compassion...
  10. Sometimes, I will greet silently in my heart towards non-living objects, such as a hall, life, room, etc. I wish them to be happy and nice too. I am not sure whether they 'get' my greeting or not, but I just can't stop myself from greeting them if I am truthfully cheerful.
  11. I like my family, I always wishes them to be happy and healthy, and it is my wish that hopefully one day I can share my happiness with them.
  12. When it is raining, I will enjoy the rain and be united in the nature, that is - just stay happily in the rain. Throughout these years, I encounter many people who are sicked after running in the rain, yet I hardly felt sick because of the rain. Probably not the rain that cause the fever, it may due to the intense rejection towards the rain. My principle is if you can't avoid something, then just join it, and united with it.
  13. I wish that I can be very brilliant, cheerful, capable, and strong. In the meantime, I wish that everyone can be as brilliant as me, as cheerful as me, as capable as me, and as strong as me. Moreover, I don't mind if others who can surpass me in any perspectives, and I welcome it very much. But of course, sometimes I still feel uneasy if someone perform better than me, and I know that it is due to my dualistic view (the separation between 'you' and 'I'). Please forgive my ignorance, and I am still learning to cultivate the perfect equanimity.
  14. I learn that everyone of us is sharing the consciousness to a certain extend. If you have greed deep inside of you, that mean I am sharing the same consciousness to a extend as well. Purify the negativity deep inside me will reduce your negativity as well. Thus, my task are cleaning, clearing and purifying. I just hope everyone to be a better person, and the earth can become a holy place to live in. We may not need after life heaven, but we need heaven on the earth!
  15. My love view is simple. I am happy as long as the person that I like/love find her true prince. Love should be not grabbing, it should be letting. Provide freedom to one another, and the love will maintain. For my possible partner, I hope that she can love the world more than she love me, and I hope that she will understand that I may love the world more than I love her. Ha, if you are reading this and you think you fulfill this requirement, please give me a call. Even though we may not get together in future, yet I wish I could know you, and be friend with you... This flower is sent to you, the angelic you who are so compassion out there ---<-<@
  16. I like to cultivate treasure the resources that  we have nowadays. Go green, recycle, reuse, and help to sustain the earth live period.
  17. Sometimes, when I remember, I will try to share any merits that I have to the world, sincerely.
  18. Be peaceful in mind, be compassionate in heart, and be genuine in deeds. That is the principle that I try to follow in my everyday practice, and may this qualities exists in your daily life too.
Getting hungry now, and it is time for dinner... Bye...

Note:
I did not mean that I am perfect and as good as what I stated above, instead I am still practicing towards the perfectness. I am still an ordinary man, who will make mistakes too. We are still learning, aren't we? Let us walk hand-in-hand, together on the path of the Truth.



Boo, Yan Jiong
12/03/2012



人的思维

人的思维会对任何的情景做出判断,而在此过程中需要参考以往的经验及当下因缘。在酝酿种种因素之后,思维就会整理出一个认知。而此认知,又成为下一刻思维的参考因素,而又进化成更新的认知。情绪也是认知的一种,只不过它是属于较能牵动生理反应的一种认知。在很多时候,我们的第一个判断就只是纯粹的分别而已,而它是中立的。但是,几乎每次的下一刻认知就开始让人失去了自我,接着就陷入了自己的陷阱中。比如说,当我们被他人责骂时,我们往往就会以其他的口气来回应等。此例子中,第一认知就是分别了此人正在责骂我们,但接着的认知是如何回应的认知,我们可能会理智的耐心解释或破口大骂等。理智的回应乃契合智慧,破口大骂只是重复以往的习气而已。

人需要多正确的思维,而才能让自己的思维渐渐契合光亮之处、慈悲、全局、正法等。但如果还没了知真正的道理时,我们就必须寻找正确的好老师,好让他们来协助我们调理我们思维上的盲点及黑暗。一旦我们了解了正法后,我们就能反观自己的思维,用正确的思维去除旧有的错误观念,接着我们才能渐渐的融入智慧大道之中。值得一提的是一旦我们了解正法后,其实刹那间我们已能破除了好多好多的妄想执着,但话虽如此,有的旧习气仍然尚未被觉察,而因此无法去除。此些旧习气,能通过深思或环境的激发而破显而出。 ‘看’到了此些错误的认知(过去错误的习气),我们就必须当下正确的思维,才能把黑暗化为光明,把烦恼化为智慧。如此,我们才能不再受到类似习气的连续束缚。

这是一门艺术,是一项包赚的投资,您得到的将是喜悦,送走的是那无明的憎恨、愤怒、懊恼等。您——加入不?

前言:
到UPM读书,才发觉到很多讲师都很随便,然后就生起一股‘不爽’的心态(学费不便宜,而且还要驾长途车到学校,感觉上那些讲师都不太敬业,也不太尊敬学生)——警觉之一!除此之外,有些同学都似乎不太有硕士学生的气质(简单说就是不太有水准),而心理就感到一阵阵的高傲——警觉之二!警觉了,为何我会有如此的反应?如此的情绪?此些情绪,也许在他人看来似乎很平常,但其实生命的低沉、忧郁、伤感、愤怒、发疯等,都是由此些所谓‘平常’的情绪所累积。警觉——反思——修正——放下!

人的思维很奇怪。

当四周的人都很不如自己时,所升起的傲慢心——惊世!
而,当四周的人都明显超越自己时,所升起的自卑感——无底洞!
前者,在UPM第一天已能察觉得到;
后者,当自己参与一班专用英语交谈的朋友即能感觉得到。

人啊,
前一刻的认知与下一刻的认知如此得短——似乎瞬间中发生!
如果没好好的觉察,就不断的让旧有的习气束缚,无法出离——跑圈圈!
觉察到了,就该修正!

如果不修?就如看到恶化及出脓的伤口不去医治——您是如此的人吗?
身的伤口尚会寻求他人治疗,何况是心的伤口呢?
奇怪的乃是众人就是会把自己心的伤口认为平常而忽略它,
是否因为习惯了那折腾的伤口,
还是不曾体会真正健康的心呢?

一步一步,
修了再修,
才会把错误的思维连根拔起。

当时的傲慢及自卑,需要智慧的引导,正确的思维,才能转化为净。

而什么是智慧呢?
那就是有因必有果,及不断的探讨:
一、痛苦的现象,了知它及接受它。
二、痛苦或种种不善心(如傲慢、自卑等)的来源。
三、全无痛苦的状态 :了解心中丝毫没有任何的担心、害怕、恐惧、傲慢等,唯有祥和、谦卑、喜悦等的存在。
四、痛苦灭去的方法:如何培养喜悦,消灭痛苦。去除痛苦的因,即无痛苦的果。

哇,那么多?如何做得到?
建议:
时时正确的思维为什么背后的为什么及探讨如何背后的如何。当然,过程中还得无‘我与你的对立’(建议用第三者身份来探讨)……

分享,分享。

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2012年3月12日



Friday, March 2, 2012

心中的地图

将成为心理医生、辅导员、激励师、谘商师的我们,我们是应该不断不断的广大的学习。除了不断苦读课本上的道理,更要不断不断的四处学习,这样我们心中的地图才会越来越大,能引导他人到更广更高的地方去。

除了心理学的一些知识外,我们也要对其他各行各业都有一定的了解,如经济、政治、职场、婚姻、爱情等。为何?想想,如果您之读书本上有关一些心理上的知识,那么将来他人问你如何解决他职场上面的压力?你能体会职场上的互相竞争吗?你不懂,也只能纸上谈兵的去帮人解决问题。问题最终能解决吗?我不知道,你告诉我吧……

唯有心中的地图大,也代表你人生的经历多,体会也多,你才能好好的去成为那人类心灵的开导者。你不但懂经济,而且也能随意的赚取几百万。你不但懂政治,而且政治人物屡次的请您出山平天下。你不但懂家庭婚姻,而且自己的家里也打理得很好……这样,才能称得上人类心灵的指南针。

在大学,我们被要求读这个都那个,做这个功课及那个功课等。如此两年的课程,就是在journal海中找上找下,抄左又抄右,最后我们学到的是什么?我很担心,并非担心自己,而是一班又一班的学弟学妹们。他们抱着想助人的态度进大学就读所谓的心理学,满怀欣喜的想要学习如何更能开导别人等,最终学到的是什么?最在行的应该是那APA格式吧……

当然,我也明白这是全环境的影响,而且如果慢慢的反观自己,也就会发现到其实我们内心也有如那讲师的负面态度。想想自己曾做事不认真,而导致到旁人的不方便。自己也多次的不用心,甚至有时也很用心了,但出来的结果有的也是非常糟糕的。又想想,曾经自己情绪低落的时候,对别人的态度又好到哪儿去呢?曾经几次,自己‘发疯’的时候,那在旁的友人又能几好过?

其实,面对眼前的负面,我们可以产生讨厌的心,也可以产生反观的心。曾经我用前者面对,但随着生活的成长,我渐渐领悟到后者的妙用。 面对眼前的负面,就必须坦诚的自问是否自己曾经有过相似的心态,如有,是否那种心态还隐藏在自己的内心深处?它已经得到很好的清理吗?如果已经全然被清理了(想好好此句话哦,真的吗?),那我们也能帮助眼前产生负面情绪的人清理他内心的波浪,毕竟,我们的意识在某个层次是相通的,不对吗?

啊……写道此处,发觉自己离题了,算了吧,停笔。

《心中的地图》本想说心灵工作者该不断的发奋图强,不该只满足于学校的教学方式(其实本人觉得大学好像把assignment拼命向学生塞塞塞,学生忙忙茫茫盲,毕业后才发觉什么都不会),不然,我们将来必走上纸上谈兵的结局。对你,对您的顾客等,都不好啊……

接着写的是有关面对逆境的修行心得,分享分享。

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2012年3月2号

Thursday, March 1, 2012

把话说出来

很多人都喜欢静静的思考,或者有话放在心中不说……
话放在心中久了,哪怕只是区区的中立意见(附加负面的意见则更不可忽略),都会在心中形成闷气,使得心不能‘通畅’,而心终日处于马马虎虎的状态。

很多人都不曾体验过那通达无碍的心(这个好像要有一段的修行才能证的)。大部分人的心都处于‘半’通畅的状态,而却不晓得把话说出来的世界是如何的。

若要体会那种境界,就把心中的话说出来吧!请相信我,那是你不曾去过的世界。把话说出来,哪怕那些话只是一种想法,对经济的看法,对政治的看法,对他人的点评,对开心事情的回忆等,说了出来,你既能体会我所说的那种‘通畅’的感觉。是‘中立’、‘负面’或‘正面’的话,说出来,您将得到预想不到的效果!

您会问我道理何在,我——不——回——答——你,直道你自己把话通通说出来,你就会体会到;我若说了其道理,那只会增加您内心的话,对吧?

说!

说!

说!

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2012年3月1日

Sunday, February 12, 2012

天啊!

大约一年半前,我见识了当时我认为乃是奇迹的事件(http://byanjiong.blogspot.com/2010/06/blog-post.html)。经过之后的一连串交流,我渐渐觉得日后的我也该会培养出如此的能力。这全是因为在一年半前,我参加了几个活动,而就在这些活动中认识了此“类”的人们。在人生的道路上,一连串的如此遭遇是否“平常”?除此之外,我对这些事迹拥有很大的好奇心,而每当遇见如此的“人”时,我都回尝试用科学的方法来探讨“那种事件”的准确度及可能性,一直到最后我把所谓的“奇事”看作为”平凡”了(见识不少了,也都不再认为奇怪了)。

此篇文章就是散乱的记述一些有关自己生命中“奇又不奇”之事,一能为生命中写下历史,二能成为日后的参考。(我尽量依着事件发展的次序编排)

 (一)明会看到别人的灵光,有时他看到我的灵光是白色、蓝色、紫色等。有一次,当我跟一位很好的异性朋友谈完电话后,就去与明及那一班‘特别’的朋友共聚晚餐。其中一位朋友就高叫:“哇,你很红叻!”(红色的灵光是跟喜欢、爱、romantic有关的)。之后我进一步的问他们我的‘人生伴侣’何时才会出现,然后他们说:“(内容保密,哈哈)”。(当然,关于人生伴侣的这个话题,我知道现在都觉得可信也非可信,我认为生命掌握在自己手中,就算他人说我明天要结婚,而我偏不结,他又能怎么样?所以当时的我也只是听听而已)

(二)有一天在讨论高深的佛法时(我认为是有一点深啦),明看见我的灵光乃闪紫色。据他说,紫色是与智慧有关,闪紫色则是另一种层次的智慧。

(三)好奇心的驱使下,去参加了天使牌解读课程说明会,当时就卖了天使牌准备回家自己研究。在家,自问了问题,然后静心后尝试抽出心意中的牌子。哇,同样的问题,真的会抽到相关的答案叻。而且有时还会重复的抽到相同的(45张的天使牌要重复抽到同一张的几率也不是那么的高,而问了好几个问题,抽得的牌也真的是让自己哑语无言)。

(四)有一次我在跟芳对话(芳从小就有很‘强’的特异功能),当时我发觉到我真的用真心与她交谈,离别时,我就问她我的灵光是什么颜色。她看了一下,就说:“Ho-sei-liao,七彩了。”(那是第一次别人告诉我有七彩的灵光,呵呵,七彩的灵光又是什么呢?猜猜?)

(五)有一次我问芳我前世是什么,虽然她也没有直说(这样的问题我问过好几次了,有如此能力的朋友都会‘敷衍’的带过,也许是他们不希望一旦我知道了前世后,会造成我日后的困扰吧!)。但她只说我有很多世都是女的。哇哇哇!好像很娘叻!刹那时还有稍微的不习惯,但想想后,算了吧,毕竟是前世吧!


(六)去学花疗(phytobiophysics)。花疗是通过测试人体的能量,就能‘猜’到他人的过去心锁。还有也能用花(植物)的能量来帮助人们治疗心锁及心锁的伤迹。当然,花疗还有很多用途,在此不一一说明(详情:google: phytobiophysics)。

(七)去学生命数字。以往有在网上学生命数字,但毕竟觉得学得很有限,所以就出席较正式的课程。生命数字是一个非常奥妙的性格认知法(当然有人用生命数字做些命理的分析,我在那方面没多大的研究与兴趣,故不评点)。在我印象里,我曾对多为朋友作出试验(他们给我生日日期,我接则说出他们的个性。当然,偶尔他们也会提供我所不认识的他们的朋友的生日),而最终大多数的人都说其准确度在八成(80%)以上。

 (八)前阵子有玩Warcraft-DotA(电玩)的习惯。玩多了,就懒得去想接下来的一场该用哪一个主角,所以往往都会用random的选择。但很多(还蛮多次啦,并不晓得如何才能算得上‘多’)时候,我会感觉到我将会使用某个主角,而random后,电脑随机给我的主角竟然是我感觉到将用的那一位。哇哇!当时我就很奇怪,为什么呢?我不晓得。当然现在回想起也依然觉得奇怪……

(九)刚买了一幅塔洛牌来供自己玩玩及研究。放在桌旁,偶尔才拿出来看看。问了一些问题,也得到一些答案。因玩(试验)的次数不多,故不加于评论。

(十)昨天参加一个慈济的讲座会,在驾车途中我突然想到一位多年不见的学长(接着就想到与她对话的画面,谈天等),哪知道到了当地竟然真的见到那位学长叻!不可思议。当然,我觉得昨天想到与她对话的画面,谈天等乃是由思维所创作——即是发白日梦,但就不清楚第一次(刹那)感觉到那位学长是属于‘感应’还是‘发白日梦’?自己也不清楚,呵呵。

 写了这篇心得,想想该把这篇文章储存在哪儿。最后还是选择放在部落格,因为(一)没有太多的人会来参访自己的部落格(故要谢谢你找到了这篇文章,也谢谢这篇文章找到了你)(二)自己也没有其他的地方可以储存(存在电脑将有被我遗忘的风险)。如果您看了此篇文章,我希望您能(一)不乱去宣扬,我可不想妖言惑众(二)不要迷信,始终要保持理性的探讨态度(三)继续认为生命掌握在自己的手中,认真的生活胜过四处依赖奇迹的显现。

面对这些的种种,我坚持:客观的探讨,并且踏实的活着。

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2012年2月12日