Happiness

What is happiness?
Happiness is truthfully accepting the truths as they are, without rejecting them;
and wisdom is needed in doing so.

Without wisdom, we will resist the truths; if we accept them, we tend to wait until we are force to do that, and usually we end up in tears,  bleeding wounds...

Open your heart, brothers and sisters...
At least try once..
Try to accept the truths, with your non-judgmental heart...
And I am sure that you will have just realized, that the truths can be accepted as easy as blinking the eyes.
And you will have just tasted the taste of the true happiness, for the first time in your life.
And I know, that you will walk on the true happiness path, ever since...


With metta,
Boo

让他人成长

有时候，要让他人成长，真的要让对方跌倒后，再扶他一把吧！

看他跌倒而再扶他，也是一种慈悲的展现吧！
如果不断的牵他，那他会晓得什么是痛吗？

时间的限制

今天出席了第二天的佛教心理学工作坊，讲师是来自澳洲的心理医生，非常资深，名 Dr. Tan Eng Kong。他的工作坊，非常的有深度，活泼，及富有慈悲的味道，故学员们都非常的喜欢他的分享方式，而却其动作从容不迫，充满和谐的气氛深深地感动了诸学员。

在其中的一个小组讨论时，有个年级较老的长辈分享她非常欣赏该讲师的成就，而且也要把他设为自己的目标，但只感慨她自己的年龄已经很大了（大约有６０余岁），所以要有如讲师的那种成就，也似乎不可能了。她转过头来，对我们说我们还年轻，所以还能奋斗努力等。当时，我们听了也不知该如何跟她互动，也许我们真的晓得那想法根本都是很实际的，并没有错。然，我们似乎想安慰该老学员的心，故就说了一些话来安慰她，如人不怕慢，只怕站等。也许这是不错的安慰方式，但似乎并非好的语句啊。

回想，其实物质的争取真的是需要一段的时间及努力的，但心的成长就相对性能非常快，关键之在于自己要不要诚实的面对自己。也许，这样对该老学员说会比较好吧：“您会欣赏讲师并非讲师物质上的成就，而是讲师那心的纯与净。你会欣赏有钱而没有良心的人吗？不会吧。是不是讲师的慈悲与智慧更加能启发您呢？如是，我们应该把焦点首先放在心的成长方面，而心的成长能是非常快的，哪怕您多老，只要发大愿，立下恒心，诚实面对自己，心灵的成长之果，即在眼前不远。若能有究竟的心灵成长，哪怕物质无法与该心理医生相比，也该是不枉此生啦！”

老学员欣赏的是讲师的心灵，不是吗？如是，把重点放在心灵成长的方面，对她可能会有更启发的作用吧，不是吗？

话说回来，该讲师的确非常的启发我，在课程结束前，讲师吩咐我们每人说出最少一句，最多三句话，来终结自己在该工作坊所学到的东西，而我记得我是如此回应讲师的：＂Dr, what you have done are impossible without spiritual maturity, and it really impress me a lot. If there is next life, I hope that you will come back again, and serve the humanity.”接着，我轻轻的把手按在心胸，稍微鞠躬，说：“May my bless be with you always.”

现今的世界，如果有多几个该讲师，可能人间净土也就不远了哦。

愿，能有更多的菩萨前来住世，净化人间，祥和社会，慈爱满人间。

２０１１年１０月３０日
Mindful & Awakening Relationships (M.A.R.S) Workshop 心得

皈依四无量心

四无量心，慈悲喜舍，
是何等的无量？

现四无量心，‘我’的‘边界’即灭。
现四无量心，烦恼即除。

现四无量心，心中没有了‘小我’，唯有‘大我’的存在。
现四无量心，‘我’既是虚空，虚空既是‘我’。

现四无量心，诸位大菩萨即前来相伴。
现四无量心，无间地狱能得刹那清凉。
现四无量心，净土即在你我眼前。

皈依四无量心，既是学习启发此四心，更设为终生学习的目标。
在启发此四心的道上，每踏前一步，则喜悦百步。

此四心法门，你我该善听，善修及善行。

静融
2011年10月18日

A good article - spiritual development

My Experience And Insight for Journey Of Personal Growing

Today i will like to share with u all regarding the journey of my personal growing. I personally feel the following points is very important to be aware of when facing our daily life issues .All our daily life issues is the chance for us to choose wisely again with love:

a) Soft with love

How soft we treat ourselves/others depend on the beliefs we have on personal growing. We all expect love from outside/others,but the only "things" we can in charge is ourselves ie our body,mind,spirit..etc.

If we look at some main personal growth terms which we may read from books,attend workshop....etc, ie aware,allow,accept,appreciate,say yes,surrender,natural...etc, all the above energy is very soft and full of love energy.In order for our life to move towards more easily and smooth life,instead of resistant,we say yes and appreciate to 'everything happen/come in our life"

b)our beliefs/valued in our life issues

We need to be aware where those beliefs come from? Why we so identified or attached with those beliefs and willing to "pay a higher price" in order to hold on those beliefs?

I personally feel listening to our body language,feeling,intuition ...ie those very honest and true voice ... etc is a wisely guidelines to guide us to "choose" the beliefs which is most suitable/match with" ourselves". We need to learn to use our inner wisdom to reassess all the beliefs we have with open heart.

Most of the people live their life according to the beliefs which can fulfill their yearning need like to be love,accepted,belonging... etc. and feel safe and comfort in doing so.

c)Higher power/Tau

Our 'I" always want to be in charge, in control of everything and think we know what is the best choice for us. I personally feel at the moment most of the people are very blur and they are unaware most of the time ,their unconscious are in charge which attract them to/from " things' which are very painful for them to go through it.

We need to learn to be humble and give way and listen to higher power voices/ Tao which really have the wisdom and love to take care of our universal as a whole.

d)Intimacy relationship with ourselves first,then we are able to cultivate intimacy/peaceful relationship with others/universal.

Everyday , most of the people are so occupied with the ' Things" outside and seldom" give/invest time" to ourselves and listen to our inner voices/need.What really can enrich ourselves ie body,mind.spirit ?

e)Self responsible for 'anythings" happen in our life

I learn to reflect what i contribute to "those happening/come into my life". If i can always remind myself to see in this way, I have the chance to growth and chose again wisely with love.I have the chance to be more aware of my" learning lesson" and breakthrough it.

Above is some of the main guideline/ insight i will like to share with u all especially for those who are beginner/new to personal growing.I really hope we all can move more easily and smoothly and "save time" in our journey to growth.Just to remind, always trust your own inner wisdom voice and we all have abundant resources to face our daily life issues.

with sharing, Lian sie - 1.5.2011

慈悲

曾经有一次，与友人（有些阴阳眼的友人）交谈中，谈起了一件事情。
友：上次你去营队回来时，我看见有个黑影跟你一起回来。
我：（当下心中马上升起了慈悲，然后接着平静、笑着得对友人说）哦，是哦？但没关系，他们若跟着我，我便会教导他们，帮他们找到真正的道路。
友：……
我：……

回想，我当时的心境确实是非常的平静，也毫无恐怖，唯有慈悲常存。此时的慈悲，是以往的我无法体会及想象的。我慈悲的加持，能遍及宇宙十方，虚空法界中，无不是我慈悲的加持。

慈悲是力量，慈悲是智慧。唯有真正的慈悲，心才会坦然接受，才会如实的观照。此时慈悲的境界，也许是昨天的自己也难以想象的啊！

2011年10月14日
彦融

祈求

慈悲伟大的佛陀、慈悲伟大的菩萨、慈悲伟大的护法、慈悲伟大的众生……

请您加加持我，请您赐我力量，让我能改变我的恶习，让我能去除心中的疑惑，让我能去除心中的恐惧，让我能无私的接受，让我能走上该走的道路，让我能看到正法，让我能心中无碍，让我能尽形寿的奉献大地众生、普渡无边无际的众生……

Om mani padme hum, om mani padme hum, om mani padme huuummm...

（泪已流下，……祈求）

2011年9月28日