Tuesday, March 20, 2012

没有禅定

没有禅定,严格来说,简直就是行尸走肉!

没有禅定,哪怕是一瞬间,或是几秒钟,或是几分钟,或是几天等,你——只是一个能走动的尸体。

没有禅定,你就无法观照。
无法观照,就唯有依着习气活着。
依着习气活着,就代表生命步伐将不断的重复:
好就继续的好,但烂的就继续的烂。
若是好的,只要依着习气,终究都无法突破,以好之更好没缘份。
若是坏的,只好依着习气,唯有不断的坏,继续的烂。

禅修,很重要!

Monday, March 19, 2012

一切从珍惜开始

不论你想要什么,还是想成为什么等,最基本的功课一定要做的好——那就是‘珍惜’!要成功吗?要事业有所成就吗?要在爱情上有更进一步的发展吗?要在学业上更上一层楼吗?要在身心灵成长上有所突破吗?要超越一切的负面情绪吗?要老板员工之间的关系有所改善吗?一切的一切,都需要真正的‘珍惜’!

活了接近三十个年头,我不能说我是一个非常懂得‘珍惜’的人,但我至少会尽我能力吃完盘上的每一粒饭。出外时会尽量把家中不必要的灯扇关上。面对朋友的邀请,我也尽力付邀了。生活中的种种,我一直都自我勉励做到‘尽力’了。当然,我并非从小到大皆如是,而是在生活中不断的学习。感恩所有朋友的指导,让我学会了‘珍惜’。

人,为何需要珍惜呢?为有不断的珍惜,我们才能抓着生命的每一个机会。珍惜,就是接受,并且好好的善于利用。换句话说,珍惜就是说YES!不断对自己生命说YES的人,才是真正能掌握机会的人。若在自己生命都掌握每一个机会,有朝一日必定会成功在望。更何况,如果不断的珍惜生命的一切,那么这将会逐渐提升珍惜的水平。从粗燥的珍惜,渐渐锻炼成细腻的珍惜。此话是什么意思呢?比例说,一个人会记得把不使用的电灯关上,这是所谓较粗燥的珍惜。但如果在生活中不断训练珍惜这门本领(也就代表时常眼观八方,处处寻求珍惜的因缘),从普通的关灯省水,慢慢的升华到更微细的动作,如轻轻的关门(以便延长物命),穿衣的时候稍微用心(以免这边拉那边扯,衣服很快坏)等,以致到能感受到他人轻轻微笑的祝福,他人各种眼神的意义等。当珍惜的心越练越细时,则就能对更微细的事项产生更微细的珍惜心,如此就能处处感觉到爱与关怀。如此的人生,处处都是喜悦与感恩啊,想要伤心失望都困难得很啊!

 今年来,发觉到年轻一代都比较不会珍惜生命的一切,眼睛一直看在外面,而专注点又不断的放在他人的缺点上,时时刻刻都不断地对他人指指点点,放佛自己是圣人。朋友们啊,其实我也不想讲的,而原本只是想让你们自己在生活中自我体会自我成长的,但是过了那么久,好像觉得还是看不下去了。

不需要用的电灯,请关上。
不需要用的风扇,请关上。
出门时,请养成关灯关扇的习惯。
吃饭时,请珍惜盘里的每一粒白米。您拿了多少,就有责任吃完它。
有时候,如果菜肴先吃光了,也请您吃完盘中的所有米饭,毕竟它们都来得不易,莫说“不好吃。”
以上所例,皆是普通不过的基本珍惜知识!

还有,如果有人介绍东西给你,也恳请您认真的考虑一下,毕竟要介绍东西给你们也需要一些力(朋友都说有好活动就要邀请他们,但之后邀请了,都几乎都说没有空而不去,太多次了啊!)。
有时候,我义务的载大家来来去去,其实也是需要一些油钱和过路费的,有时候还需要泊车费。可以的话请觉察到这一点,能的话就帮忙补些泊车费吧。 其实,我还没那么在乎,只是担心如果你们对其他朋友也如此,可能该朋友会渐渐的疏远你们了,毕竟真的是不便宜。
你用的东西用了多少,或者吃了多少,那费用最好依个人的分量来分别,不要你在旁吃大鱼大肉,然后在旁的朋友只是喝一小杯果汁,最终的账单就大家一起来平分,很不好吧?(我推想您应该不是有意要如此做的,而是平日都是粗心大意的你,这样的细节你该不曾想过吧?)
 朋友,请您珍惜自己的生命,不要天天连续剧、电玩、lepak等。做些有益的东西吧!(这句话其实是写给自己看的)

如果有一天,当自己伤心绝望的时候,请不要埋怨社会的不公平。想想,在你生命中,您曾有真正的珍惜自己的生活?真正珍惜生活的人,哪有会看不到能感恩的事项。会感恩的人,哪有会伤心绝望的?除此之外,会珍惜的人,哪有会随便让机会从他身旁飘过而不去抓着的?如果时时刻刻都不断善用生命的每个机会,哪有会不成功的?其实,自己的失败,老实说,也是自己让自己失败的。

唉,还是一句话:一切从珍惜开始!


后语:
写这篇文章时,其实心中是稍有一些的不满的(不好意思,修行还为到家)。不满那些心思太粗燥的人,一直忽略身旁的一切,却又不断地埋怨他人没有给与公平的对待。 当然,自己的心也有一些的感叹及伤感,看着你们茫然的过日子,自己又不知道自己在过什么样的日子,而自己又没有自我成长,我——感叹及伤感。我指点您吗?可以,但您接受指点吗?

当然,此篇文章也是要警惕自己,勉励自己日后要更珍惜一切。最后,但愿天下众生都学会珍惜,也因为开始珍惜的那一刻,就是您自我尊重的那一刻!



2012年3月19日

Sunday, March 18, 2012

Holistic Psychology Database

Holistic Psychology Database
* This page is growing, I will add-on any newly discovered therapy system in my life here. The learning is in process, and hope this can benefit the readers. If you want to know more, then kindly ask me. If the terms are here, then it indicate that I know where to search for further information even though I am not familiar with it, at the moment. If you know any additional therapies/skill/stuff/etc, kindly introduce to me. I wish to know more ^_^

Let learn together...

3 MAJOR FIELDS
1. Conventional Psychology
2. Psycho-spiritual psychology & Miscellaneous
3. Religion


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1. Conventional Psychology


2. Psycho-spiritual psychology and Miscellaneous
(The following grouping style is my personal grouping method, group according to similarities)
Color code:
BLUE: quite familiar / have some sort of practice
PURPLE: probably familiar, but hardly practice nowadays
ORANGE: have some introductory knowledge
RED: hear the name, but hardly discover the essence

Group A: Typically you can do by yourself
Meditation/Mindfulness
Walking meditation
Daily routine meditation Visualization
Spiritual Dancing
Chang Sheng Xue
Cakra
Yoga
Qi-Gong
Art of Living
Breathwork
EFT - Emotional Freedom Techniques
Hooponopono
Sufism
Traditional Chinese Medication

Group B:You typically need to ask someone to help, and more tool oriented (although you can do it by yourself too)
Numerology
Astrology
Palmistry
Face reading
Isis (Mother Goddess of Ancient Egypt)
Tarot Card
Angel Card therapy
Dream analysis - Tibetan Medical Methodology
Prophecy
Native America Healing - e.g. Power animals
Aroma Therapy
Phytobiophysics - Flower and plant energy therapy
Craniosacral therapy
Family Constellation

Group C: Invoke the help from other Realms, although some other practices may invoke other realms' helps too
Medium (spirit, guidance angel, deceased relatives, etc)

Group D: More communication oriented
身心灵深层唯识沟通
Past-Life therapy
Hypnosis
NLP
TLT (Time line therapy)

Group E: Artistic
Metaphor
Creative Arts
Music therapy

Group F:  Miscellaneous, Technology and Medication
Out of Body Experience (OBE)
Dying & Near death experience
Aura photography
Psychedelics, Ethnophamacology

3. Religions and Philosophy
Buddhism
Christianity
Islam
Hindusim
Ancient Chinese Philosophy
Ancient Rome Philosophy

Friday, March 16, 2012

茫然在——喧哗中的平静

我发觉到我不习惯‘喧哗中的平静’。什么是‘喧哗中的平静’?例如,在一组人高谈阔论时,突然间大家都‘冷场’了,那时的我既很可能会无厘头的依照以往的习气来说几个冷笑话,但往往后果反而更‘冷场’或最终不了了之。从喧哗中,然后突然间变到平静,我的习气告诉我要赶紧让热闹再度燃烧。这是对的吗?除此之外,有时在发表意见时,突然间说完了台词,整个人会不觉察的紧张起来(虽然也许旁人不会觉察到),而尽量的想说些话来掩盖那安静的时刻。回想起,其实在很多时候多说多错,让所表达的思维谬以千里。

好像曾经有位大师说过如果人去处了习气,生命完全活在当下的选择中,此人即已接近证悟了。如果在‘冷场’中,我该静静的分析该‘冷场’是否应该或是恰当的,不是吗?很多时候,在‘静’的时候,人类才能好好的思考,不是吗?还记得以前在佛学院读书的时候,有位法师跟我及同学们说如果将来向他人说道理的时候,我们应该在适当的时候停顿,以便听众能好好的消化吸收。除此之外,凭着自己的人生经验,也会发觉到好的讲师等都会在该停顿的时候停顿,放松的时候放松。我,是时候学习如何创造极佳的‘平静’了!放下过去的茫然习惯(那就是每当发觉到冷场时,就会乱乱制造一些话题来补上去),放下过去的慌张(那就是每当发现冷场时,内心深处就会感到慌乱),放下过去的自卑(那就是每当发现冷场时,就仿佛会认为自己所说的或所表达的并不完美,导致到大家没兴趣听等);提起内观,正定,信心,同理来表达每一个论点!要明白其实安静也是一种美,更是一种需要!人们需要安静来消化所吸取的知识,讲课人更需要安静来从新扎根,呼吸,眼神的交流,感受现场等。

 要做好一个教育家,就要有很好的沟通管道,明白他人,明白自己。至于那些过去的习气,如果还未浮现的,就激发它,好让它们赶紧浮现,接着再转化它们。那些已浮现的习气,就当下转化之。如今,发觉到了‘我并无法好好处理喧哗中的平静’的问题,着就要当下改之。

现在,改。

观想,我融入那平静之中,我遨游在整个安静的课时里,融入了听众们的内心,也融入了自己的内心,观——

观——

停——

静——



加油!



2012年3月16日



Monday, March 12, 2012

My Daily Spiritual Practice

The following texts are written as a memory as well as my personal spiritual practice checklist... Over the years, I have tried to seek the true nature of the myself, tried to understand the mechanism of the mind, tried to explore the limitation of human mind, tried to explore this world from other dimensions, tried to live a truly happy life, and tried to understand the so-called 'Enlightenment'. The journey start in the past, yet it never cease. Right now right here, I am still exploring in those areas, instead, my interests and scope of studies had been expanded in accordance to the accumulation of knowledge and maturity of the spirituality.

If I am given one word to describe myself, I would like to choose the word 'Compassion' over other choices of word. I may be very well educated, knowledgeable, independent, wise, optimistic, realistic, spiritual, smiling, happy, cheerful, etc, yet I think kindness is the most important and wonderful ability that I have in my life.

I try to list out any memories, habits, deeds, thoughts, wishes, etc in my recent daily life... This may serve as my personal spiritual practice checklist, and I can reflect on it in order to be more mature, accepting, kind, etc.

Without any delay, I write anythings that come into my mind... Let the mind flows like streams of water, fluently, peacefully, and beautifully... Here it goes...

  1. In the morning, I slowly open my eyes, and wish myself, family, friends, as well as the world to become more compassionate, and grow better in the direction of the Light.
  2. I observe things and phenomena with sharpen mind, keep study and explore their causes (origins) as well as possible effects.
  3. When I make movements, for example, swing the hand from left to right or simply flip my palm, I probably will visualize that I am spreading the seed of love and compassion to the surroundings.
  4. I am trying to be mindful in my daily life. Sometimes, I may walk with 'commands', e.g. silently say 'left' and 'right' while I exchanging my pace from left leg to right leg. Besides, I may occasionally sense the sensation between my hand and the touched surface. Besides, I may try to cultivate mindful breathing from time to time.
  5. If I meet anyone who burst into anger, or being drown by the darkness of sorrow, even if the person is a stranger to me, I will silently, mindfully, compassionately bless him/her, and send my blessing, lights, wishes to him/her. I hope that even though I can't directly help him/her, I may help him/her indirectly. Even though this seem quite silly from scientific perspective, at least I know that I have done my best (Hmmm, probably that my best is still not enough?).
  6. I am trying to be friendly with any insects around me. I seldom kill any insects, except sometimes ants (sorry for killing, kill for the purpose of cleaning, but ants come because of my less hygiene behaviors... -_-"). Anyway, I seldom kill any mosquitoes, and probably because of this, I hardly sting by any mosquitoes, even while I am hiking in forest... (Haha, syok sendiri... zzz)
  7. For many years (at least 8 years), my birthday wishes remain the same, and it is going to be the same... That is (1) Purify the heart of human being, (2) Harmonize the society,  and (3) No disasters in the world. These wishes are actually origin from Master Cheng Yen, and her compassion deeply touched me. Thus, I wish as what she wishes.
  8. If I find any anger, hatred, ignorance, proud, etc deep within myself, I will try to look deep into it. Try to understand the origin of these emotions (of course I never reach the so-called true origin), and then try to transform it into wisdom. Then, let go.
  9. Try to be vegetarian, but recently I feel that I am quite greedy and long for many types of food. Too bad, because of my greed, many lives are killed. Need to cultivate more on compassion...
  10. Sometimes, I will greet silently in my heart towards non-living objects, such as a hall, life, room, etc. I wish them to be happy and nice too. I am not sure whether they 'get' my greeting or not, but I just can't stop myself from greeting them if I am truthfully cheerful.
  11. I like my family, I always wishes them to be happy and healthy, and it is my wish that hopefully one day I can share my happiness with them.
  12. When it is raining, I will enjoy the rain and be united in the nature, that is - just stay happily in the rain. Throughout these years, I encounter many people who are sicked after running in the rain, yet I hardly felt sick because of the rain. Probably not the rain that cause the fever, it may due to the intense rejection towards the rain. My principle is if you can't avoid something, then just join it, and united with it.
  13. I wish that I can be very brilliant, cheerful, capable, and strong. In the meantime, I wish that everyone can be as brilliant as me, as cheerful as me, as capable as me, and as strong as me. Moreover, I don't mind if others who can surpass me in any perspectives, and I welcome it very much. But of course, sometimes I still feel uneasy if someone perform better than me, and I know that it is due to my dualistic view (the separation between 'you' and 'I'). Please forgive my ignorance, and I am still learning to cultivate the perfect equanimity.
  14. I learn that everyone of us is sharing the consciousness to a certain extend. If you have greed deep inside of you, that mean I am sharing the same consciousness to a extend as well. Purify the negativity deep inside me will reduce your negativity as well. Thus, my task are cleaning, clearing and purifying. I just hope everyone to be a better person, and the earth can become a holy place to live in. We may not need after life heaven, but we need heaven on the earth!
  15. My love view is simple. I am happy as long as the person that I like/love find her true prince. Love should be not grabbing, it should be letting. Provide freedom to one another, and the love will maintain. For my possible partner, I hope that she can love the world more than she love me, and I hope that she will understand that I may love the world more than I love her. Ha, if you are reading this and you think you fulfill this requirement, please give me a call. Even though we may not get together in future, yet I wish I could know you, and be friend with you... This flower is sent to you, the angelic you who are so compassion out there ---<-<@
  16. I like to cultivate treasure the resources that  we have nowadays. Go green, recycle, reuse, and help to sustain the earth live period.
  17. Sometimes, when I remember, I will try to share any merits that I have to the world, sincerely.
  18. Be peaceful in mind, be compassionate in heart, and be genuine in deeds. That is the principle that I try to follow in my everyday practice, and may this qualities exists in your daily life too.
Getting hungry now, and it is time for dinner... Bye...

Note:
I did not mean that I am perfect and as good as what I stated above, instead I am still practicing towards the perfectness. I am still an ordinary man, who will make mistakes too. We are still learning, aren't we? Let us walk hand-in-hand, together on the path of the Truth.



Boo, Yan Jiong
12/03/2012



人的思维

人的思维会对任何的情景做出判断,而在此过程中需要参考以往的经验及当下因缘。在酝酿种种因素之后,思维就会整理出一个认知。而此认知,又成为下一刻思维的参考因素,而又进化成更新的认知。情绪也是认知的一种,只不过它是属于较能牵动生理反应的一种认知。在很多时候,我们的第一个判断就只是纯粹的分别而已,而它是中立的。但是,几乎每次的下一刻认知就开始让人失去了自我,接着就陷入了自己的陷阱中。比如说,当我们被他人责骂时,我们往往就会以其他的口气来回应等。此例子中,第一认知就是分别了此人正在责骂我们,但接着的认知是如何回应的认知,我们可能会理智的耐心解释或破口大骂等。理智的回应乃契合智慧,破口大骂只是重复以往的习气而已。

人需要多正确的思维,而才能让自己的思维渐渐契合光亮之处、慈悲、全局、正法等。但如果还没了知真正的道理时,我们就必须寻找正确的好老师,好让他们来协助我们调理我们思维上的盲点及黑暗。一旦我们了解了正法后,我们就能反观自己的思维,用正确的思维去除旧有的错误观念,接着我们才能渐渐的融入智慧大道之中。值得一提的是一旦我们了解正法后,其实刹那间我们已能破除了好多好多的妄想执着,但话虽如此,有的旧习气仍然尚未被觉察,而因此无法去除。此些旧习气,能通过深思或环境的激发而破显而出。 ‘看’到了此些错误的认知(过去错误的习气),我们就必须当下正确的思维,才能把黑暗化为光明,把烦恼化为智慧。如此,我们才能不再受到类似习气的连续束缚。

这是一门艺术,是一项包赚的投资,您得到的将是喜悦,送走的是那无明的憎恨、愤怒、懊恼等。您——加入不?

前言:
到UPM读书,才发觉到很多讲师都很随便,然后就生起一股‘不爽’的心态(学费不便宜,而且还要驾长途车到学校,感觉上那些讲师都不太敬业,也不太尊敬学生)——警觉之一!除此之外,有些同学都似乎不太有硕士学生的气质(简单说就是不太有水准),而心理就感到一阵阵的高傲——警觉之二!警觉了,为何我会有如此的反应?如此的情绪?此些情绪,也许在他人看来似乎很平常,但其实生命的低沉、忧郁、伤感、愤怒、发疯等,都是由此些所谓‘平常’的情绪所累积。警觉——反思——修正——放下!

人的思维很奇怪。

当四周的人都很不如自己时,所升起的傲慢心——惊世!
而,当四周的人都明显超越自己时,所升起的自卑感——无底洞!
前者,在UPM第一天已能察觉得到;
后者,当自己参与一班专用英语交谈的朋友即能感觉得到。

人啊,
前一刻的认知与下一刻的认知如此得短——似乎瞬间中发生!
如果没好好的觉察,就不断的让旧有的习气束缚,无法出离——跑圈圈!
觉察到了,就该修正!

如果不修?就如看到恶化及出脓的伤口不去医治——您是如此的人吗?
身的伤口尚会寻求他人治疗,何况是心的伤口呢?
奇怪的乃是众人就是会把自己心的伤口认为平常而忽略它,
是否因为习惯了那折腾的伤口,
还是不曾体会真正健康的心呢?

一步一步,
修了再修,
才会把错误的思维连根拔起。

当时的傲慢及自卑,需要智慧的引导,正确的思维,才能转化为净。

而什么是智慧呢?
那就是有因必有果,及不断的探讨:
一、痛苦的现象,了知它及接受它。
二、痛苦或种种不善心(如傲慢、自卑等)的来源。
三、全无痛苦的状态 :了解心中丝毫没有任何的担心、害怕、恐惧、傲慢等,唯有祥和、谦卑、喜悦等的存在。
四、痛苦灭去的方法:如何培养喜悦,消灭痛苦。去除痛苦的因,即无痛苦的果。

哇,那么多?如何做得到?
建议:
时时正确的思维为什么背后的为什么及探讨如何背后的如何。当然,过程中还得无‘我与你的对立’(建议用第三者身份来探讨)……

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2012年3月12日



Friday, March 2, 2012

心中的地图

将成为心理医生、辅导员、激励师、谘商师的我们,我们是应该不断不断的广大的学习。除了不断苦读课本上的道理,更要不断不断的四处学习,这样我们心中的地图才会越来越大,能引导他人到更广更高的地方去。

除了心理学的一些知识外,我们也要对其他各行各业都有一定的了解,如经济、政治、职场、婚姻、爱情等。为何?想想,如果您之读书本上有关一些心理上的知识,那么将来他人问你如何解决他职场上面的压力?你能体会职场上的互相竞争吗?你不懂,也只能纸上谈兵的去帮人解决问题。问题最终能解决吗?我不知道,你告诉我吧……

唯有心中的地图大,也代表你人生的经历多,体会也多,你才能好好的去成为那人类心灵的开导者。你不但懂经济,而且也能随意的赚取几百万。你不但懂政治,而且政治人物屡次的请您出山平天下。你不但懂家庭婚姻,而且自己的家里也打理得很好……这样,才能称得上人类心灵的指南针。

在大学,我们被要求读这个都那个,做这个功课及那个功课等。如此两年的课程,就是在journal海中找上找下,抄左又抄右,最后我们学到的是什么?我很担心,并非担心自己,而是一班又一班的学弟学妹们。他们抱着想助人的态度进大学就读所谓的心理学,满怀欣喜的想要学习如何更能开导别人等,最终学到的是什么?最在行的应该是那APA格式吧……

当然,我也明白这是全环境的影响,而且如果慢慢的反观自己,也就会发现到其实我们内心也有如那讲师的负面态度。想想自己曾做事不认真,而导致到旁人的不方便。自己也多次的不用心,甚至有时也很用心了,但出来的结果有的也是非常糟糕的。又想想,曾经自己情绪低落的时候,对别人的态度又好到哪儿去呢?曾经几次,自己‘发疯’的时候,那在旁的友人又能几好过?

其实,面对眼前的负面,我们可以产生讨厌的心,也可以产生反观的心。曾经我用前者面对,但随着生活的成长,我渐渐领悟到后者的妙用。 面对眼前的负面,就必须坦诚的自问是否自己曾经有过相似的心态,如有,是否那种心态还隐藏在自己的内心深处?它已经得到很好的清理吗?如果已经全然被清理了(想好好此句话哦,真的吗?),那我们也能帮助眼前产生负面情绪的人清理他内心的波浪,毕竟,我们的意识在某个层次是相通的,不对吗?

啊……写道此处,发觉自己离题了,算了吧,停笔。

《心中的地图》本想说心灵工作者该不断的发奋图强,不该只满足于学校的教学方式(其实本人觉得大学好像把assignment拼命向学生塞塞塞,学生忙忙茫茫盲,毕业后才发觉什么都不会),不然,我们将来必走上纸上谈兵的结局。对你,对您的顾客等,都不好啊……

接着写的是有关面对逆境的修行心得,分享分享。


2012年3月2号

Thursday, March 1, 2012

把话说出来

很多人都喜欢静静的思考,或者有话放在心中不说……
话放在心中久了,哪怕只是区区的中立意见(附加负面的意见则更不可忽略),都会在心中形成闷气,使得心不能‘通畅’,而心终日处于马马虎虎的状态。

很多人都不曾体验过那通达无碍的心(这个好像要有一段的修行才能证的)。大部分人的心都处于‘半’通畅的状态,而却不晓得把话说出来的世界是如何的。

若要体会那种境界,就把心中的话说出来吧!请相信我,那是你不曾去过的世界。把话说出来,哪怕那些话只是一种想法,对经济的看法,对政治的看法,对他人的点评,对开心事情的回忆等,说了出来,你既能体会我所说的那种‘通畅’的感觉。是‘中立’、‘负面’或‘正面’的话,说出来,您将得到预想不到的效果!

您会问我道理何在,我——不——回——答——你,直道你自己把话通通说出来,你就会体会到;我若说了其道理,那只会增加您内心的话,对吧?

说!

说!

说!


2012年3月1日