时间的限制

今天出席了第二天的佛教心理学工作坊，讲师是来自澳洲的心理医生，非常资深，名 Dr. Tan Eng Kong。他的工作坊，非常的有深度，活泼，及富有慈悲的味道，故学员们都非常的喜欢他的分享方式，而却其动作从容不迫，充满和谐的气氛深深地感动了诸学员。

在其中的一个小组讨论时，有个年级较老的长辈分享她非常欣赏该讲师的成就，而且也要把他设为自己的目标，但只感慨她自己的年龄已经很大了（大约有６０余岁），所以要有如讲师的那种成就，也似乎不可能了。她转过头来，对我们说我们还年轻，所以还能奋斗努力等。当时，我们听了也不知该如何跟她互动，也许我们真的晓得那想法根本都是很实际的，并没有错。然，我们似乎想安慰该老学员的心，故就说了一些话来安慰她，如人不怕慢，只怕站等。也许这是不错的安慰方式，但似乎并非好的语句啊。

回想，其实物质的争取真的是需要一段的时间及努力的，但心的成长就相对性能非常快，关键之在于自己要不要诚实的面对自己。也许，这样对该老学员说会比较好吧：“您会欣赏讲师并非讲师物质上的成就，而是讲师那心的纯与净。你会欣赏有钱而没有良心的人吗？不会吧。是不是讲师的慈悲与智慧更加能启发您呢？如是，我们应该把焦点首先放在心的成长方面，而心的成长能是非常快的，哪怕您多老，只要发大愿，立下恒心，诚实面对自己，心灵的成长之果，即在眼前不远。若能有究竟的心灵成长，哪怕物质无法与该心理医生相比，也该是不枉此生啦！”

老学员欣赏的是讲师的心灵，不是吗？如是，把重点放在心灵成长的方面，对她可能会有更启发的作用吧，不是吗？

话说回来，该讲师的确非常的启发我，在课程结束前，讲师吩咐我们每人说出最少一句，最多三句话，来终结自己在该工作坊所学到的东西，而我记得我是如此回应讲师的：＂Dr, what you have done are impossible without spiritual maturity, and it really impress me a lot. If there is next life, I hope that you will come back again, and serve the humanity.”接着，我轻轻的把手按在心胸，稍微鞠躬，说：“May my bless be with you always.”

现今的世界，如果有多几个该讲师，可能人间净土也就不远了哦。

愿，能有更多的菩萨前来住世，净化人间，祥和社会，慈爱满人间。

２０１１年１０月３０日
Mindful & Awakening Relationships (M.A.R.S) Workshop 心得

皈依四无量心

四无量心，慈悲喜舍，
是何等的无量？

现四无量心，‘我’的‘边界’即灭。
现四无量心，烦恼即除。

现四无量心，心中没有了‘小我’，唯有‘大我’的存在。
现四无量心，‘我’既是虚空，虚空既是‘我’。

现四无量心，诸位大菩萨即前来相伴。
现四无量心，无间地狱能得刹那清凉。
现四无量心，净土即在你我眼前。

皈依四无量心，既是学习启发此四心，更设为终生学习的目标。
在启发此四心的道上，每踏前一步，则喜悦百步。

此四心法门，你我该善听，善修及善行。

静融
2011年10月18日

A good article - spiritual development

My Experience And Insight for Journey Of Personal Growing

Today i will like to share with u all regarding the journey of my personal growing. I personally feel the following points is very important to be aware of when facing our daily life issues .All our daily life issues is the chance for us to choose wisely again with love:

a) Soft with love

How soft we treat ourselves/others depend on the beliefs we have on personal growing. We all expect love from outside/others,but the only "things" we can in charge is ourselves ie our body,mind,spirit..etc.

If we look at some main personal growth terms which we may read from books,attend workshop....etc, ie aware,allow,accept,appreciate,say yes,surrender,natural...etc, all the above energy is very soft and full of love energy.In order for our life to move towards more easily and smooth life,instead of resistant,we say yes and appreciate to 'everything happen/come in our life"

b)our beliefs/valued in our life issues

We need to be aware where those beliefs come from? Why we so identified or attached with those beliefs and willing to "pay a higher price" in order to hold on those beliefs?

I personally feel listening to our body language,feeling,intuition ...ie those very honest and true voice ... etc is a wisely guidelines to guide us to "choose" the beliefs which is most suitable/match with" ourselves". We need to learn to use our inner wisdom to reassess all the beliefs we have with open heart.

Most of the people live their life according to the beliefs which can fulfill their yearning need like to be love,accepted,belonging... etc. and feel safe and comfort in doing so.

c)Higher power/Tau

Our 'I" always want to be in charge, in control of everything and think we know what is the best choice for us. I personally feel at the moment most of the people are very blur and they are unaware most of the time ,their unconscious are in charge which attract them to/from " things' which are very painful for them to go through it.

We need to learn to be humble and give way and listen to higher power voices/ Tao which really have the wisdom and love to take care of our universal as a whole.

d)Intimacy relationship with ourselves first,then we are able to cultivate intimacy/peaceful relationship with others/universal.

Everyday , most of the people are so occupied with the ' Things" outside and seldom" give/invest time" to ourselves and listen to our inner voices/need.What really can enrich ourselves ie body,mind.spirit ?

e)Self responsible for 'anythings" happen in our life

I learn to reflect what i contribute to "those happening/come into my life". If i can always remind myself to see in this way, I have the chance to growth and chose again wisely with love.I have the chance to be more aware of my" learning lesson" and breakthrough it.

Above is some of the main guideline/ insight i will like to share with u all especially for those who are beginner/new to personal growing.I really hope we all can move more easily and smoothly and "save time" in our journey to growth.Just to remind, always trust your own inner wisdom voice and we all have abundant resources to face our daily life issues.

with sharing, Lian sie - 1.5.2011

慈悲

曾经有一次，与友人（有些阴阳眼的友人）交谈中，谈起了一件事情。
友：上次你去营队回来时，我看见有个黑影跟你一起回来。
我：（当下心中马上升起了慈悲，然后接着平静、笑着得对友人说）哦，是哦？但没关系，他们若跟着我，我便会教导他们，帮他们找到真正的道路。
友：……
我：……

回想，我当时的心境确实是非常的平静，也毫无恐怖，唯有慈悲常存。此时的慈悲，是以往的我无法体会及想象的。我慈悲的加持，能遍及宇宙十方，虚空法界中，无不是我慈悲的加持。

慈悲是力量，慈悲是智慧。唯有真正的慈悲，心才会坦然接受，才会如实的观照。此时慈悲的境界，也许是昨天的自己也难以想象的啊！

2011年10月14日
彦融

祈求

慈悲伟大的佛陀、慈悲伟大的菩萨、慈悲伟大的护法、慈悲伟大的众生……

请您加加持我，请您赐我力量，让我能改变我的恶习，让我能去除心中的疑惑，让我能去除心中的恐惧，让我能无私的接受，让我能走上该走的道路，让我能看到正法，让我能心中无碍，让我能尽形寿的奉献大地众生、普渡无边无际的众生……

Om mani padme hum, om mani padme hum, om mani padme huuummm...

（泪已流下，……祈求）

2011年9月28日

Wish for 5 Mindfulness Trainings...

I wish I can be the eyes of Buddha, the mouth of Buddha, and the body of Buddha. I am born to correct any of the mis-conceptions, mis-perceptions of the human being. I am the messager of the Buddha, who will transform the Earth into a pure land of happiness.

Wise Dwelling in the Heart

心智住

Boo,Yan Jiong

19 September 2010

Born to be good...

“I believed that I am born to be good. I have a vision which keeps nourishing the next step of mine while I peacefully walk forward. Virtues accompany me; joyfully, I live for every day.”

I am Boo, Yan Jiong, came to this world on the date 22 November 1983. I did remember neither how I was born nor how I felt when I was born. However, whenever I think about the origin of my life, my heart will always be swollen with gratitude and thankfulness. I did remember the time when I was small, and eventually grow up, living healthily until now. There are unlimited cause and condition that nourish my growth, yet I could only manage to list some of them with limited words.

I am gratitude to my parents who bring me up to this world. They provided me a comfortable environment to grow and learn during my childhood as well as adolescence, yet I started to spend much less time with them when I was 19, as I started my undergraduate study in University Technology of Malaysia (UTM), which located quite far from my hometown. Furthermore, after my graduation, I worked in electrical company which is located much further from my house in contrast to my university. Although I will try to go back to my hometown whenever I have time, yet I feel sorry due to I am unable to accompany them when they start to grow old. My parents had cultivated many virtues in within me, including responsibility, caring, reading, discipline, etc. Besides, my childhood friends were very friendly, and we often joke and laugh together, probably this is one of the reasons that I am humorous nowadays. In a nutshell, I have a delighting childhood, and a happy family background.

After I finished my study in secondary school, I further my study in Electronic Engineering in UTM for 5 years. During the life in university, I was much influenced by many of the people, including my course mates, hostel friends, housemates, society friends, etc. Most of them come from different background, yet we managed to mix together in harmony. Frankly, I was amazed by some of my talented friends in my university, and I learnt much from them either consciously or unconsciously. Besides, I felt very lucky and gratitude because there are few Tzu-Chi society seniors willing to mentor my growth; they encouraged, advised, and accompanied me throughout my campus live. Under their guidance, the capacity of my heart kept increasing, I learnt to accept, trust, love, and forgive upon everything. Furthermore, I was moved to participate in plenty of the social works, such as clean the old-folks home, help those helpless aged people, visit to mental-retarded care centre, organize recycling activities, etc. Through those participation in the social works, I were able to listen to wide spectrum of opinions and advices, ranged from the homeless old-folks to the rich and prosperous people, in addition those people were different in the culture, religion, race, etc. It is very possible that some of the old-folks who gave advices to me may have passed away, yet their blessings will never be faded away from my heart, as long as I stay alive. Through interactions with friends and society, I broadened my mind, and compassion started to bloom in within my heart. Besides, since Tzu-Chi is a world-wide organization, I was exposed to the natural disasters, military conflicts, humanity aids, etc that happened around the globe. Contemplating upon this point, it is very likely that my concerns towards global-scale-incidents developed at this stage. Moreover, I am taught to not waste any foods, etc, and I have maintained this habit until now.

In addition, I am pleased and thankful towards few of my friends who introduced Buddhism to me. Before that, I was a named ‘Buddhist’ without much knowledge in Buddhism. However, after being introduced Buddhism by my friends, I was attracted to the teachings of Buddha, which particularly emphasis on the cultivation of wisdoms and compassions. I started to read plenty of Buddhism related books after I found out that Buddha teachings are actually wisdom and compassion oriented, which I had misperceived for a long time since I was young. I read books written by Ven. Yin-Shun, Ven. Cheng-Yen, Ven. Xing-Yun, Ven. Ji-Chen, etc. Their teachings had guided me to solve many problems throughout my life. Besides reading, I liked to participate in meditation retreats, which I would learn the ways to look deeply into my heart in order to cultivate the wisdoms, compassions and as well as increasing the capacity to non-discriminate, trust, love and forgive in within me. However, I consider myself as the worst student in learning meditation, probably due to the extremely agitated mind that I possessed; yet this never stop me from practicing meditation, instead I still continue to learn nowadays. From the Buddha teachings, I learn and practice to reason with unbiased rationality, to serve the humanity in selfless ways, to understand others compassionately, to do things mindfully, and to live meaningfully.

I did remember that I once studied in FGS Taiwan Buddhism Institute for 2 months while having UTM semester break. During the period, I tried my best to write diary on daily basis. Besides, I was taught and encouraged to retrospect my mind and behaviours frequently, and eventually the congruence between my mind and behaviours improved. The period in the institute was very memorable, and it maybe one of the most intense self-monitoring periods that I ever performed. Moreover, one of the reasons that I write blogs frequently may originate from this period of habitual daily dairy writing.

On the other hand, I participated in some of the direct sales activities during my campus life. Subsequently, I attended many of the motivation talks, and my perception towards diligence was reinforced. Besides, most of my friends in the campus were very hardworking, e.g. diligent in their study, participating in social works, selling health care products, joining religious activities, etc.; and these consciously or unconsciously cultivated my diligence, as well as the spirit of keep walking forward.

After my graduation, I worked as an electrical engineer in a multi-national company. The working environment in the company was extremely systematic, and functional. Besides, schedules were followed strictly, and works need to be finished on time. However, employees were given freedom to do anything, provided that they can able to fulfil those requirements in time. I learnt many virtues from these working environments. Moreover, I had few good bosses at that time, which I learnt much from them too. In short, my leadership, creativity, confident, strategic planning skill, resources planning skill, presentation skill, etc were being polished during that period. Besides, I learnt to be independent as I started to earn my living with my salary as an engineer. I resigned from my post after 3.8 years working there, due to my intention to further my study in clinical psychology, yet those virtues and skills that were cultivated during that time are very beneficial and useful in my daily life.

I kept seeking the meaning of my life seriously when I started to work. Of course currently I do not have any clear answer, yet it seems that I am able to raise the order of the question to another higher level. I continue to seek the truths from books, participating in discussion groups, searching for enlightened ideas from the internet, participating in meditation classes, deepening my observations on this world, questioning towards any things, looking deeply into self-emotions, monitoring deeply into self-mind, etc during this period. I broaden my world-view through the internet, particularly interest in Youtube, Google, National Geographic, Discovery, CNN, Aljazeera, TEDtalks, Berkeley Webcast, etc. Besides documentaries, I enjoy listening to fascinating news around the world, as well as listening speeches talked by those great people. Within this period, I read about politics, economics, human anatomy, human health, western and eastern medicine, psychology, technology, science, ancient history, philosophy, myths, etc; however I am none of these field experts as I managed to learn on the surface only. In addition, I am inspired by many of the great people, such as Dalai Lama, Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Albert Einstein, etc. The translator of ‘Tibetan Book of Living and Dead’, Prof. Zheng Zhen-Huang, who I meet few years ago had mentor my spiritual growth greatly, I gained much knowledge from him and eventually my perceptions are transformed, leading me to live joyfully, happily, and meaningfully, ever since.

I do write blogs whenever I have inspirations. I write dairies in orders to kept historical records of my life. Through writings, tremendous thinking and reasoning process involved, subsequently I managed to recursively correct any misconceptions in my mind. Besides, I become more self-monitoring for every dairy that I wrote, I learnt to observe deeply into my mind, attitudes, emotions, and behaviours whenever I translate them into words. Through self-monitoring, driven by wisdom, I correct any faults in within me. Purification of oneself is neither to be a great nor famous people, instead happiness and meaning bloom with every forward step in the purification path.

Currently, I enrolled myself in the psychology field. Of course I wish to graduate as a clinical psychologist, yet I know none of the people can guarantee my wish; at least I know my heart is unable to guarantee that. Instead, even if I able to get a psychologist certificate, yet it does not mean that I will become a psychologist in the future, since I don’t even know what will happen at the next moment. However, I told myself that if my heart is still beating, and I am still breathing, then I shall walk forwards, joyfully serve the humanity as the humanity has served me.

I am just an ordinary people with ordinary visions. Even though there are any virtues or capabilities that shine in within me, I gave all the credits to the causes and conditions that nourish my life, as well as my mind. Without those causes and conditions, any establishment of values in within me is impossible. Finally, I am thankful and gratitude to all those causes and conditions that nourish me, and I bless them, for both of the known and unknown that exists in this universe, hoping that we can transform the Earth into a humanism-significant pure land together.




“Wise Dwelling in the Heart”



Boo, Yan Jiong
8 October 2010